The day you’ve dreamt about your whole life is almost here — your wedding day. The picture in your mind of you saying I do to your special someone fills your heart with joy and warmth. But somewhere deep down, you dread the idea of being the center of attention in a wedding crowd. Luckily, we have helpful planning tips for shy, introverted couples.
It’s normal for introverts to feel anxious way in the time leading up to their weddings and with good reason. Weddings can be overwhelming — even for extroverts. However, with the right plans in place, you can navigate it with a sense of calm and delight.
The wedding bells are ringing, and so is your phone. Planning your wedding as an introvert can be as overwhelming as the wedding day itself. There are many things you need to do. At the same time, you want to ensure that you cover the essential details necessary for a wedding that feels just the way you want it. So, first things first, let’s get into some tips for planning your wedding day as an introvert.
Your nearest and dearest may already know that you prefer solitude to crowds. Your vendors and wedding planners, on the other hand, may have a different idea and make the same plans they would for an extrovert. The wedding planning phase is an excellent time to communicate your concerns and preferences to everyone involved, including photographers and DJs. Be firm and reject any suggestions that don’t align with your personal goals for your wedding day.
Even when family and friends know your preferences, they may still want you to uphold some traditions that you may find overwhelming to include in your wedding. While you can appreciate their efforts and good intentions, it’s in your best interest to also set clear boundaries during the planning process. Setting these boundaries early will prevent interference attempted at changing your specific plans for the day.
The people you invite to your wedding make up your wedding crowd — they will be the ones who support and make you feel comfortable, or the ones whose energies drain you the most on your special day. Curate your guest list with intention, because your emotional battery life depends on it. Set a defined number of guests that wouldn’t overwhelm you, and only invite those who will help you be yourself.
Picture this: It’s your wedding day, and you walk into a large hall filled with bright lights and loud, echoing noise. A lot is happening all at the same time — multiple conversations at once, and many guests waiting to start small talk with you and your newlywed spouse. If this picture overwhelms you, it’s probably a sign to choose a more casual and intimate venue for your wedding. Large spaces have a way of amplifying big moments. Intimate venues, on the other hand, create a sense of safety with less sensory overload, making it easy for introverts to stay grounded and present.
Your wedding day is here. You’ve communicated your preferences, curated a comfortable guest list and wedding party and chosen a space that feels warm and intimate. With the right wedding day plans in place, the hours will go by with less anxiety and more enjoyment of memorable moments with people who matter the most to you. Let’s walk through some ideas to make your wedding day feel calm and joyful.
Not every second on your wedding day needs to be witnessed by everyone present. You can choose to enjoy special moments privately.
For example, you can do a first look before the ceremony, away from the crowd. Instead of having the pressure of an audience watching, you can have an intimate exchange between just you and your soon-to-be spouse. This way, you and your partner can comfortably bask in the emotions of seeing each other dressed up for the first time. Similarly, you can share your vows privately without the pressure of getting them perfect in front of your guests.
Most introverted couples feel uneasy just thinking about performing certain wedding traditions. Take the grand entrance into the reception, for example. You might feel uncomfortable making an entrance with all eyes on you and your spouse. While this is the customary thing to do, you can skip it altogether and make a subtle, almost unnoticed entrance instead.
It’s normal to feel overwhelmed, even after adopting some or all of the wedding tips for introverted brides and grooms. This is why you should make time for mini breaks throughout the day. Stealing some quiet time with your spouse away from the crowd will do wonders for your energy.
Now, let’s talk about another aspect of your wedding day you may be nervous about as a shy, introverted couple — photography. You may not hate the camera itself and the beautiful memories it can capture on your big day. But the social demands that come with being photographed may leave you feeling like you’ve been put on the spot. Not to worry, we’ve got you covered.
Here are some photography tips to bear in mind:
Your wedding day is one you want to enjoy every bit of, from the moment you get dressed to the closing remarks. So, forget the rules and make your day work for you and your partner — your nervous system will thank you.
Prioritize choosing the right photographer who will bring calm to your sessions. At Shutter and Sound, we have perfected the art of pressure-free atmospheres for introverted couples to feel at ease and comfortable in front of the camera on their special day. Fill out our contact form to learn more about our services.